Our approach to Valentine’s day: built on love, but not on “stuff”

Valentine's Day heartAJ & KJ: One of the key themes that we’re always searching for in a gift is for experiences and not stuff. We have been very fortunate to have enough stuff, and over the years, we have learned that it’s the experiences we spend together that will last us a lifetime. And thus was born our Valentine’s day tradition that’s been going strong since our college years. Some people loathe this Hallmark holiday, and others cherish the opportunity to build their collection of *stuff,* but we’re more middle-ground when it comes to our tradition for this particular holiday.

Keeping it simple
We don’t buy one another gifts or have really complicated plans for what we want to do on Valentine’s day to share in the special moments, but we do have a long-standing tradition of a nice, relaxing couple’s massage and then an all-you-can-eat churascaria extravaganza (read, lots of high quality beef on skewers at our disposal! – Texas de Brazil and Boi Na Braza among our favorites). It certainly isn’t one of the cheapest Valentine’s dates we could have, but it’s what we do each year to spend the day together and treat ourselves to a great experience that really matters. The exact day itself doesn’t really matter to us – as we often don’t celebrate on the actual day since our go-to restaurants can be quite crowded, but we always celebrate Valentine’s day and relax from our busy lives either the weekend before or the weekend after. We’re going for simple, and we feel that we’ve kind of found a sweet spot.

Building a tradition
Traditions are great and they help you build a nice foundation. You’re not trying to continuously compete against your prior gift and constantly do more, and more, and more (as chances are, you’ll never get to the point where you’ve done the *most* you can), so you learn to really sit back and appreciate the hours, the minutes, and the seconds – those special moments to reflect on your years together and to be excited for the years to come. In this fast-paced world, we have little down-time to truly relax and catch-up, and we’ve found that our nice little tradition has not only lasted years, but it’s something we look forward to.

Find value where you can
Just because it’s fancy doesn’t mean you can’t find value, so find value where you can (sorry for all the double negatives…)! Even though it sounds quite luxurious to have a couple’s massage and an expensive restaurant, we’ve always managed to keep it reasonable and find ways to stretch our dollars. For most years, we went to Massage Envy for a great, discounted rate, since as a non-member, you can enjoy a discounted massage once every year (at least that’s how it was when we last went), and we timed it with a special pricing at one of our churascaria go-to restaurants (as it always seems at least one of them is offering discounted dinner AND dessert!).

Set expectations
My favorite thing about how we do Valentine’s day is that the expectations are known. Give a thoughtful card, show appreciation, and settle in for a nice day together.

This year’s plan
This year, we’re changing our tune just a little bit since we purchased an all-in-one massage and lunch package from a silent auction at an annual gala of an organization we support each year, but the gist is the same. Massage and lots of food! Sure, there are probably feng shui reasons for not doing these back-to-back, but hey, it works for us and it serves a dual purpose – donating to an organization we’re passionate about and indulging in our favorite things. We also agreed to make cards for each other this year. Arts and crafts 101! I think it speaks to our overall priorities – showing each other appreciation and enjoying being together.

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